10 Ways To Ask For, And Get, What You Want
1. Identify What You Need
You cannot ask effectively if you are unsure yourself.
2. Make your request reasonable
Ensure your request is doable.
3. Don’t pile on the reasons
Be specific/ask for one thing at a time.
4. Tell yourself you’re worth it.
If you don’t believe you deserve it, they won’t either.
5. Write down the basis for your request before making it.
It is always best to see your see your request in writing first.
6. Take the other person’s needs into account.
Are you looking at your request from all sides?
7. Be nice
People naturally want to give to those that are nice.
8. Be honest
Self-explanatory. Dishonesty can jeopardize your request forever.
9. Don’t pout or sulk if you don’t get your way.
This will jeopardize your chances for this and future requests.
10. Give the person a way out without damaging the relationship.
A good attitude will ensure a future “yes.”
So, you’ve asked and they still say no. Now what?
– Stay Calm.
– Thank them for their time
– Ask how they can help you achieve your request.
– Reassess when/how/where etc. to ask again and repeat the steps above.
